i am soo having the wedding lows now...still got lotsa things to complete but I am just plain lazy and cldn't bring myself to do anything that has to do w weddings. I'd rather think about my future home..heh! i started the wedding countdown at 220 days and now it's just 84 days away! But, I am still not motivated to have anything to do w weddings(i repeated twice. see how motivated i am.).....i guess all brides-to-be go through this phase or "crisis" at 1 point or another, yes? When the panic button is triggered, I'll be all flustered and will get to work once again, i hope.
Sha lamented how lives change after school, after work and after marriage. Especially after marriage. Married friends have their own very separate lives and to arrange for meet ups or gatherings become a very daunting task. Sometimes it takes months just to organise that 1 meet up. Sha's married except her time and her hubby's time is still flexible as at this point, they do not have any juniors as yet, in comparison to many of their other married counterparts. While I was abode hunting not too long ago, she urged me to get the still vacant unit underneath hers so that we can always keep in constant contact even after my marriage and it'd be so much fun to be neighbours since we have become more of a family friend, after forging more than a decade of friendship. But the budget was way off our mark. And now that my future home is at the other extreme end from hers, there will be no more cab pooling after our rendezvous sessions. For our friendship to keep going, i must admit that the initiative for such bonding sessions i.e shopping shopping shopping, eating eating eating (i still dun gain any wt despite), jb sessions, karaoke sessions, are initiated by her, most often than not. dun get me wrong. even if we dun meet up after some time, it'll still be the same old us', the girls unleashed - giggly bubbly et al. from this cold corporate world, wen we do eventually for some nice coffee break.
Cos i admit i can be quite of a social recluse. Hehe..or sometimes i just give up trying to organise meet ups after several failed attempts. And became contented with "meeting" online via msn, email and the likes. Complacency sets in. Tsk tsk.
Effort
Can
Produce
Success isn;t that right? - my pri school motto with the name that complements the acronym : ECPS = East Coast Primary School.
My sec school buddy, dort is also the initiator for arranging meet ups, most often. And, I am still in constant contact and meet ups with my sec sch grp of frens - yun, dort and xiu.
I believe that even after marriage, it's important to still keep your friendships going strong. I hope I will be able to..or would I still depend on my friends to be the initiator? Hmm … Friends are integral in everyone's lives playing completely/somewhat different roles from our family members. While we may have our mutual friends, there's still the need to keep our individual social life, away from our other half to continue to become the individual that we are, and to keep our sanity in tact?! heh! But of course, our other halves would know who our friends are and vice versa. Just moi personal take on individual social lives after marriage. Yours may differ from mine. Cheerios!
While my social circle may be small, I hope I'll still be able to upkeep this small yet precious clan....
We have a little of our friends in us, don’t we? Such influential persona they are..
here's a tribute to my dear friends, those whom I often meet and also not but we still do keep in touch tho' through the various platforms.....you know who u are... I am thankful that our paths crossed and thank you for leaving such indelible footprints in my otherwise mundane life..... :)
-- tea's thoughts --
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